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Dreaminess | I have read some stuff about how cancer moons will do some good but then expecting you to do some good in return for them and in the view of some people its supposedly wrong of us cancer moons to want that. I have lost count off how many times i have been the dump of other people`s problems, been there when they need emotional support and helping them through difficult times but still i dont ask for much but when the tables are turned people have the nerve to be shocked when we feel someone "owe" us something. People need to seriously learn to appreciate when someone has been there for them and learn not to only take but also give back. |
theunknown | I've known several cancer moons and some are great some are not. We live the way we remember and a cancer moon sometimes doesn't remember how others have helped them because they are caught up in their own emotions. I have helped cancer moons I know more than they have helped me. But my act of helping might not seems like "help" to them. Since what they want is someone who's always emotionally there and "loyal." If you have bad synastry with someone, you should fund some other ppl who understand your needs better. |
DopGang | I've not noticed this with cancer moons but on the other hand I'm usually there when in need anyway. I've noticed it with Leo moon! |
Dreaminess | quote: Originally posted by theunknown: I've known several cancer moons and some are great some are not. We live the way we remember and a cancer moon sometimes doesn't remember how others have helped them because they are caught up in their own emotions. I have helped cancer moons I know more than they have helped me. But my act of helping might not seems like "help" to them. Since what they want is someone who's always emotionally there and "loyal." If you have bad synastry with someone, you should fund some other ppl who understand your needs better.
I am actually the complete opposite of that, i am way more caught up in other people`s feelings than my own and i remember exactly what someone has done and not done for me. I do however agree with synastry bc i have experienced this from people with less sensitive signs in them, esp less sensitive moon signs.
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Aries23Degrees | quote: Originally posted by Dreaminess: I have read some stuff about how cancer moons will do some good but then expecting you to do some good in return for them and in the view of some people its supposedly wrong of us cancer moons to want that. I have lost count off how many times i have been the dump of other people`s problems, been there when they need emotional support and helping them through difficult times but still i dont ask for much but when the tables are turned people have the nerve to be shocked when we feel someone "owe" us something. People need to seriously learn to appreciate when someone has been there for them and learn not to only take but also give back.
Cancer moon here. I don't think that one should be "there" for people if at the back of one's head , one is expecting to gain some brownie points for that. Compassion,sympathy and help when given, should be given as their own reward. One "loses" nothing by being kind, unless that act of kindness makes them feel other than good. Then the act is shallow and meaningless. And it will yield the same results. So when you let a friend who is in a tight place share your flat for a couple of weeks and it makes you feel good to have made a decision. That is an act of kindness I speak of. But if you take your friend in because you are thinking "perhaps one day I will be in their shoes and I will also need help" etc. That seems more like a defense against some future projected fear you wish to avoid by covering yourself in the here and now. And they just happen to be that means to that end. There are a number of people that have come to my aid in moments of desperation. Many of them being strangers. And I haven't "paid" them back. Others I have been there for,but am not expecting anything in return. The act of being there for them was a conscious choice of the expression of nurture and not one of guilt or social obligation/subtle "I will only scratch your back when one day you scratch mine" etc. |
Dreaminess | quote: Originally posted by Aries23Degrees: Cancer moon here. I don't think that one should be "there" for people if at the back of one's head , one is expecting to gain some brownie points for that. Compassion,sympathy and help when given, should be given as their own reward. One "loses" nothing by being kind, unless that act of kindness makes them feel other than good. Then the act is shallow and meaningless. And it will yield the same results. So when you let a friend who is in a tight place share your flat for a couple of weeks and it makes you feel good to have made a decision. That is an act of kindness I speak of. But if you take your friend in because you are thinking "perhaps one day I will be in their shoes and I will also need help" etc. That seems more like a defense against some future projected fear you wish to avoid by covering yourself in the here and now. And they just happen to be that means to that end. There are a number of people that have come to my aid in moments of desperation. Many of them being strangers. And I haven't "paid" them back. Others I have been there for,but am not expecting anything in return. The act of being there for them was a conscious choice of the expression of nurture and not one of guilt or social obligation/subtle "I will only scratch your back when one day you scratch mine" etc.
This is not my thinking at all. I automatically help people in need as soon as they come to me, i dont expect anything from them. I have always been the "therapist" among my friends. But i have noticed selfish people, people that are too caught up in themselves dosen`t know what it means to give back, they just know how to take.
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Aries23Degrees | quote: Originally posted by Dreaminess: This is not my thinking at all. I automatically help people in need as soon as they come to me, i dont expect anything from them. I have always been the "therapist" among my friends. But i have noticed selfish people, people that are too caught up in themselves dosen`t know what it means to give back, they just know how to take.
Oh Ok. I see. But why would you care for such people anyway? I don't
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Dreaminess | quote: Originally posted by Aries23Degrees: Oh Ok. I see. But why would you care for such people anyway? I don't
Bc for some reason i attract people like that to me.
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Aries23Degrees | quote: Originally posted by Dreaminess: Bc for some reason i attract people like that to me.
Stop doing that Ok seriously though, just look to see what would have people who are like that become drawn to you for? Is there a certain way that I relate to others that makes it seem like its 'okay" to do that to me? what does your chart look like? |
Dreaminess | quote: Originally posted by Aries23Degrees: Stop doing that Ok seriously though, just look to see what would have people who are like that become drawn to you for? Is there a certain way that I relate to others that makes it seem like its 'okay" to do that to me? what does your chart look like?
I think it might come from my venus in leo that i have attracted alot of friends like that to me. They tend to be a little egocentric and likes attention, but i also attract neptunian types to me too bc of the opposition it makes to my moon bc they are also insecure, can be delusional and can be very lost and often need guidance. |
Aries23Degrees | quote: Originally posted by Dreaminess: I think it might come from my venus in Leo that i have attracted a lot of friends like that to me. They tend to be a little egocentric and likes attention, but I also attract Neptune types to me too because of the opposition it makes to my moon. Neptune types can also be insecure, delusional and can be very lost and often need guidance.
I don't think that attracting the Leo type or Neptune type is in itself problematic. It could be that you may be attracting the "less evolved" types to you.As Neptune people can also be awe-inspiring, magnetic and completely wonderful people. Leo's can be generous,passionate,vibrant and entertaining people. I myself am Neptune conjunct Sun. And I think I am fabulous!! |
Dreaminess | quote: Originally posted by Aries23Degrees: I don't think that attracting the Leo type or Neptune type is in itself problematic.It could be that you may be attracting the "less evolved" types to you.As Neptune people can also be awe-inspiring, magnetic and completely wonderful people. Leo's can be generous,passionate,vibrant and entertaining people. I myself am Neptune conjunct Sun. And I think I am fabulous!!
Too bad they tend to have the bad qualities of those two signs.
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